A question...

I was speaking to someone who had been sexually abused as a child.

A spiritual advisor of hers said that she needed to make peace with the abuser to continue to walk her spiritual path. (NB: The advisor did not say "all victims must make peace with all abusers"... the advisor said that she had to make peace with *this particular* abuser... and maybe only because of certain special circumstances.)

She asked me what that meant. I said that she "made peace" once she wasn't hoping for this man to die or otherwise suffer, other than as was justified by his actions. She didn't have to talk to him, didn't have to deal with him, she didn't even have to wish him *well*... I said that once she wasn't wishing harm on him, she had made peace with him, as much as could be asked.

Keeping in mind that she asked me the question (so I wasn't telling her from out of the blue that she shouldn't wish ill on her attacker), how do people feel about that answer?

(Yes, it's an open-ended question.)

A question...

I was speaking to someone who had been sexually abused as a child.

A spiritual advisor of hers said that she needed to make peace with the abuser to continue to walk her spiritual path. (NB: The advisor did not say "all victims must make peace with all abusers"... the advisor said that she had to make peace with *this particular* abuser... and maybe only because of certain special circumstances.)

She asked me what that meant. I said that she "made peace" once she wasn't hoping for this man to die or otherwise suffer, other than as was justified by his actions. She didn't have to talk to him, didn't have to deal with him, she didn't even have to wish him *well*... I said that once she wasn't wishing harm on him, she had made peace with him, as much as could be asked.

Keeping in mind that she asked me the question (so I wasn't telling her from out of the blue that she shouldn't wish ill on her attacker), how do people feel about that answer?

(Yes, it's an open-ended question.)