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Apologies for a leakover of drama, but...

If you want to get pissed off at me, fine.

If you don't want to talk to me about it, fine.

If you want to bitch about me in public, without talking to me (e-mail address is in the user info, after all), don't refer to me as a "friend".

I don't want to be called a friend if you won't respect me enough, or care about me enough, to talk things out, or let the matter drop.

Yeah, I can be a hard person to deal with sometimes. Sometimes, it's hard to be my friend. I'm really different, and it can be hard to puzzle me out, and I won't be arrogant enough to insist that the rewards are always worth the effort. Sometimes they are; I'm sure that sometimes they're not.

It's no big deal to me if a person doesn't want to extend the effort it takes to be a friend to me. Sure, sometimes it's disappointing, but hell, I'm no charity case. If the effort isn't worth it, I don't want someone extending it... such relationships are bad news on both sides.

Edited: You probably don't know the situation, nor the person involved. It's not a big deal, the person in question is not a jerk, or an asshat, or anyone you want to avoid. S/he's a good decent person who has, and deserves, many wonderful friends. I just had my buttons pushed by the word "friend" and by the anger, without any bidirectional communication going on.

This was more of a generic PSA... yes, I'll get people angry. I know that, and I don't particularly enjoy it, especially not when it's over a misunderstanding. People who want to be my friend have to understand that, when they're angry with me, I want to know, and I want to try to work things out. Or, if we can't work things out, we need to let things drop.

(no subject)

Apologies for a leakover of drama, but...

If you want to get pissed off at me, fine.

If you don't want to talk to me about it, fine.

If you want to bitch about me in public, without talking to me (e-mail address is in the user info, after all), don't refer to me as a "friend".

I don't want to be called a friend if you won't respect me enough, or care about me enough, to talk things out, or let the matter drop.

Yeah, I can be a hard person to deal with sometimes. Sometimes, it's hard to be my friend. I'm really different, and it can be hard to puzzle me out, and I won't be arrogant enough to insist that the rewards are always worth the effort. Sometimes they are; I'm sure that sometimes they're not.

It's no big deal to me if a person doesn't want to extend the effort it takes to be a friend to me. Sure, sometimes it's disappointing, but hell, I'm no charity case. If the effort isn't worth it, I don't want someone extending it... such relationships are bad news on both sides.

Edited: You probably don't know the situation, nor the person involved. It's not a big deal, the person in question is not a jerk, or an asshat, or anyone you want to avoid. S/he's a good decent person who has, and deserves, many wonderful friends. I just had my buttons pushed by the word "friend" and by the anger, without any bidirectional communication going on.

This was more of a generic PSA... yes, I'll get people angry. I know that, and I don't particularly enjoy it, especially not when it's over a misunderstanding. People who want to be my friend have to understand that, when they're angry with me, I want to know, and I want to try to work things out. Or, if we can't work things out, we need to let things drop.