(Very)Minor BDSM understanding quote, work safe.

So, I was ... ummm... re-reading a message I entirely composed on my own time, not on company time, see? And I realized I found an idea that worded something in a way that I felt maybe had the potential to open the door to understanding for certain types of folks, and I decided to share it, and preserve it, here.


It went like this:

...an image just now
formed in my head, something akin to a person saying "Sure, I want to
be denigrated, insulted, shamed, and treated with utter contempt...
but only by someone who loves me enough to make it seem as real as
possible, because deep down, we both know it isn't."
(end quoted material)

I think that might... I dunno. It might make some parts of the BDSM mindset more accessible to people who might try to understand it, but can't. Because, after all, a great deal of sexual behavior can include getting close, and vulnerable, and letting go of certain types of control (at the very least, once an orgasm builds past a certain point, conscious control goes out the window), and I think people generally have a good feel for love and trust weaving together through this openness and vulnerability.

Yes, there's a difference between a "missionary position couple" changing angle/depth/speed of contact to help one partner, the other, or both, achieve greater pleasure, and ... well, pick your own favorite kink example. But the base idea, of doing something out of love, based in trust, for a person's pleasure, is pretty darn close to universal, I imagine.

I'm not sure what point (if any) this has, but it felt like something interesting to type in during the end of my lunch (half-)hour.

(Very)Minor BDSM understanding quote, work safe.

So, I was ... ummm... re-reading a message I entirely composed on my own time, not on company time, see? And I realized I found an idea that worded something in a way that I felt maybe had the potential to open the door to understanding for certain types of folks, and I decided to share it, and preserve it, here.


It went like this:

...an image just now
formed in my head, something akin to a person saying "Sure, I want to
be denigrated, insulted, shamed, and treated with utter contempt...
but only by someone who loves me enough to make it seem as real as
possible, because deep down, we both know it isn't."
(end quoted material)

I think that might... I dunno. It might make some parts of the BDSM mindset more accessible to people who might try to understand it, but can't. Because, after all, a great deal of sexual behavior can include getting close, and vulnerable, and letting go of certain types of control (at the very least, once an orgasm builds past a certain point, conscious control goes out the window), and I think people generally have a good feel for love and trust weaving together through this openness and vulnerability.

Yes, there's a difference between a "missionary position couple" changing angle/depth/speed of contact to help one partner, the other, or both, achieve greater pleasure, and ... well, pick your own favorite kink example. But the base idea, of doing something out of love, based in trust, for a person's pleasure, is pretty darn close to universal, I imagine.

I'm not sure what point (if any) this has, but it felt like something interesting to type in during the end of my lunch (half-)hour.